Toddler guides
Short articles for this stage, reviewed against AAP and CDC guidance.
TLDRToddler: the few things to know, for busy parents
- Tantrums are a skill gap, not defiance. Stay calm, name the feeling, and problem-solve later. Read the guide
- Say what to do instead of "don't": "Gentle hands", "Stay on the sidewalk". Follow through kindly. Read the guide
- Talk about what they're looking at and pause for their turn. No words by 15-16 months, or fewer than three by 18, is worth a check. Read the guide
- You decide what, when and where; they decide whether and how much. Keep offering new foods without pressure. Read the guide
- Drowning is fast and silent: stay within arm's reach near any water and never leave a toddler in the bath. Read the guide
- Swallowing a button battery or magnets means the ER right away, even if your child seems fine. Read the guide
- Dose medicine by weight with the product's own syringe, lock it up high, and save Poison Control (1-800-222-1222). Read the guide
Play and development 9
- Get Them Outside: Outdoor Time, Toddler Behavior and Sleep Why daylight and movement mean calmer days and easier bedtimes.
- How to Help Your Toddler Play on Their Own: The Yes Space Uninterrupted, self-directed play and a safe 'yes space', from Janet Lansbury.
- Toddler Talking: First Words to Short Sentences First words to short sentences: what's typical, how to help, and when to get it checked.
- Open-Ended Toys and Toy Rotation for Toddlers and Preschoolers Why fewer, simpler toys work better, how to rotate toys, play spaces, loose parts by age with choking cautions, and messy play.
- Active Play Ideas for Toddlers, Indoors and Out How much movement toddlers need and easy indoor and outdoor ideas for climbing, running and balance.
- Toddler Art and Messy Play: Easy Ideas and Safety Process art and sensory play ideas by age, plus setup tips and choking and water-bead safety.
- Early Signs of Autism in Babies and Toddlers, and How Screening Works Early signs of autism to notice from 9 to 30 months, how screening at 18 and 24 months works, and calm next steps if you're worried.
- Toddler Attention Span: What's Normal and How to Build Focus Typical toddler attention spans and everyday ways to help focus grow, without worrying too early.
- Help Your Toddler Talk: Language Games at Home Speech-therapist techniques and everyday games that boost toddler language in any home language.
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- Say What to Do, Not What Not to Do Positive directions toddlers can follow: swap "don't" for what to do instead, with examples for hitting, running, climbing and more.
- Tantrums Are a Skill Gap, Not Defiance Why toddler tantrums are a skill gap, not defiance: staying calm, naming the feeling, steady routines and what to skip mid-tantrum.
- Toddler Meltdowns: OK the Feeling, Hold the Boundary, Shift to Yes A three-step plan for toddler meltdowns: OK the feeling, hold the boundary, shift to the yes, with words to try and why order matters.
- Quick Calm-Down Skills for Toddlers and Preschoolers Quick calm-down skills for toddlers and preschoolers: playful breathing, naming feelings, moving and drawing it out, and practicing when calm.
- Co-Regulation: How Your Calm Helps Your Child Calm Down Co-regulation: why a calm adult helps a child calm down, from Dr. Aliza Pressman and Dr. Becky Kennedy.
- The Whole-Brain Child: Connect First, Then Redirect The Whole-Brain Child: connect first, then redirect, from Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson.
- Why Your Child Acts Out: Behavior Is a Signal, Not Defiance Good Inside: behavior is a signal of a need or a skill gap, from Dr. Becky Kennedy.
- How to Set Sturdy Boundaries with Your Toddler Sturdy leadership: boundaries are what the parent will do, from Dr. Becky Kennedy.
- Whining, Not Listening, Lying and 'I Hate You': What Your Child Means Whining, not listening, lying and 'I hate you', read as signals, from Dr. Becky Kennedy.
- How to Build Frustration Tolerance and Resilience in Your Child Building frustration tolerance and resilience instead of rescuing, from Dr. Becky Kennedy.
- Calm, Confident Limits for a Toddler Who Keeps Testing Calm, confident limits for a toddler who is testing, from Janet Lansbury.
- Discipline Without Shame: What to Do Instead of Punishment Discipline without shame: what to do instead of punishment, from Janet Lansbury.
- Sharing, Grabbing and Toy Conflicts: Why Not to Force Sharing Why not to force sharing, and how to handle toy fights, from Janet Lansbury.
- Evidence-Based Discipline Without Physical Punishment Discipline that works without spanking or physical punishment: natural and logical consequences, connection first and consistent limits.
- Boundaries with Kids: Letting Reasonable Consequences Teach Boundaries with Kids: letting reasonable consequences teach, with empathy, from Henry Cloud and John Townsend.
- How to Talk So Kids Will Listen: Words for Feelings and Cooperation How to Talk So Kids Will Listen: words for feelings and cooperation, from Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.
- Separation Anxiety and Starting Childcare Why clinginess peaks around 10 to 18 months, goodbyes that help, and starting daycare.
- Helping Your Toddler Through Big Changes: Moves, Preschool, Pacifier How to prepare a toddler for a move, new caregiver, preschool or giving up the pacifier, and why regression is normal.
- Toddler Biting, Hitting and Pushing: What to Do and Say Why toddlers bite, hit and push, how to block it calmly, what to say, and how to work with daycare.
- How to Teach Toddlers to Name Their Feelings Emotion coaching basics: validating feelings, building a feelings vocabulary by age, and games and books that help.
- Toddler Head Banging, Rocking and Other Comfort Habits Why toddlers bang their heads, rock or twirl hair, how to keep them safe, and when it's worth a mention.
- Stalling and Dawdling: Slow Mornings, Bedtime Delays and Transitions Why toddlers and preschoolers stall, and calm ways to speed up mornings, bedtime and leaving the house.
- Toddler Says No to Everything: Defiance and Power Struggles Why toddlers say no, how to get cooperation with choices and play, and how to hold limits calmly.
Feeding 5
- Family Meals and Toddler Food: What to Serve, and Picky Eating Family meals, toddler food ideas and picky eating, from HealthNut Nutrition.
- Cups, Milk and Weaning the Bottle: From 6 Months to Age 1 Cups from 6 months, switching to whole milk at 1, how much milk, and moving on from the bottle.
- Picky Eating in Toddlers: Why It Happens and What Actually Helps Why toddler appetite drops, how to offer new foods without pressure, portions, milk and juice limits, and when to get help.
- What Should a Toddler Eat? Sample Day, Portions, Snacks and Drinks A sample toddler day, portion sizes, iron and fiber, constipation basics, drinks, choking-safe foods, and vegetarian or vegan toddlers.
- Cow's Milk, Oat Milk or Soy Milk: What Should My Toddler Drink? How much cow's milk toddlers need, how plant milks compare, and planning for dairy-free families.
Everyday care 9
- Screen Time: General Guidance Current general guidance on screens for babies and young children.
- Diaper Battles and Leaving the Park: Everyday Standoffs, Calmer Diaper battles, car seats and leaving the park with less fighting, from Janet Lansbury.
- Potty Training: Readiness and How to Start Signs your child is ready, a calm way to start, and handling accidents and setbacks.
- Toddler Teeth: Brushing, Fluoride Toothpaste and the First Dentist Visit When to see the dentist, how much fluoride toothpaste to use, and protecting toddler teeth from bottles, juice and snacks.
- Toddler Water Safety, Sun, Hot Cars and Window Falls How to prevent drowning, hot-car deaths and window falls, plus sun protection and when to start swim lessons.
- Toddler Hates the Bath: Easing Fears and Hair-Washing Why toddlers fight the bath, how often they need one, gentle hair-washing tricks and bath safety.
- Toddler Scared of Haircuts, Shots or the Doctor Preparing toddlers for haircuts, shots and checkups with honest words, comfort holds and distraction.
- Toddler Routines and Visual Schedules That Cut Down Battles How predictable routines, picture schedules, timers and first-then language help toddlers cope.
- Toddler Won't Let You Brush Their Teeth: What Works Games, positions and routines that turn nightly toothbrushing fights into quick, cooperative brushing.
Sleep 6
- Toddler Sleep: Naps, Bedtime and the Big Bed How much toddlers sleep, dropping to one nap, bedtime battles, and moving to a big bed.
- Crib to Toddler Bed: When to Switch and How to Keep Them in Bed When to move from the crib to a bed, how to make the room safe, and how to help your toddler stay in bed.
- Night Terrors vs Nightmares: How to Tell and What to Do How to tell night terrors from nightmares, what to do for each, sleepwalking safety, and signs that need a doctor.
- When Kids Drop the Nap, and How to Start Quiet Time Signs your child is ready to stop napping, how to make the switch, setting up quiet time and moving bedtime.
- 18-Month and 2-Year Sleep Regressions: Why and What Helps Why sleep often falls apart around 18 months and 2 years, and steady steps to get through it.
- Toddler Waking at Night: Causes and a Calm Plan Common reasons toddlers wake at night and a consistent, calm way to help them back to sleep.
Approaches 4
- What Other Cultures Teach About Helpful, Calm Kids: Chores and Autonomy Lessons from Maya, Inuit and Hadzabe families on bringing toddlers into real work, autonomy and calm, plus the main critiques.
- How to Help Your Child With Big Feelings: The 5 Steps of Emotion Coaching Emotion coaching in five steps: notice the feeling, connect, empathize, name it, then set limits and solve problems together.
- How to Stop Yelling: Peaceful Parenting and Self-Regulation Peaceful parenting: calm yourself first, build connection with special time and play, and coach instead of punish.
- Montessori at Home: Practical Ideas for Toddlers Without Buying Anything Core Montessori ideas, practical-life jobs by age, floor bed and learning tower safety, criticisms, and how to try it on a budget.
Health 7
- Allergies, Hay Fever and Asthma in Babies, Toddlers and Preschoolers Telling allergies from colds, easing hay fever, wheezing versus asthma, inhalers with spacers and asthma action plans.
- Croup in Toddlers: The Barking Cough and Night-Time Care What causes croup's barky cough and stridor, calming night-time steps, and when it's more serious.
- Kids' Vision Screening, Lazy Eye and Eye Health by Age How vision develops, screening by age, lazy eye and crossed eyes, pink eye, and protecting young children's eyes.
- Hand, Foot and Mouth Disease and Other Toddler Rashes Caring for hand, foot and mouth disease, a guide to common childhood rashes, and the glass test.
- Always Sick at Daycare? Germs, Handwashing and When to Stay Home Why kids in childcare get sick so often, handwashing that works, when to keep a child home and backup care plans.
- Why Is My Child Snoring? Sleep Apnea Signs in Kids When snoring is normal, signs of obstructive sleep apnea, how it's diagnosed and treated, including tonsils and adenoids.
- Toddler Constipation and Holding In Poop Breaking the painful-poop and withholding cycle with food, milk limits, potty sits and patience.
Safety 10
- Bug Spray, Tick Checks and Sunscreen for Babies and Kids Repellent by age, tick checks and removal, stings and itchy bites, and sunscreen for babies and young kids.
- Burns and Scalds in Kids: First Aid and How to Prevent Them Cool-water first aid for burns, what not to put on them, which burns need a doctor and kitchen and bath scald prevention.
- Swallowed Button Battery, Magnet or Small Object: What to Do Why button batteries, magnets and water beads are emergencies, the honey step, and what to do for coins and small objects.
- Winter Coats in Car Seats, Dressing for Cold and Winter Safety The car seat pinch test, layering for cold, frostbite and hypothermia signs, sledding and indoor winter hazards.
- Cuts, Scrapes, Splinters and Nosebleeds: Kids' First Aid How to clean cuts and scrapes, when a cut needs stitches, removing splinters and stopping a nosebleed the right way.
- Kids and Dogs: Preventing Bites and Staying Safe With Pets How to read a dog's stress signals, teach kids to approach dogs, handle a bite and stay safe with other pets.
- My Child Hit Their Head: Bumps, Falls and What to Watch For What's normal after a head bump, first aid, signs to watch for, concussion basics and preventing serious falls.
- Hot Cars, Driveways and Car Safety Habits for Families Why children are forgotten in hot cars, habits that prevent it, backover safety, and safe habits inside the car.
- Lead Poisoning and Hidden Home Hazards for Babies and Toddlers Where lead hides, how to lower exposure, lead testing at 1 and 2, plus carbon monoxide, radon and smoke.
- Giving Kids Medicine Safely: Dosing by Weight, Measuring and Storage How to dose by weight, measure in mL, avoid double doses, store medicine up and away and use Poison Control.
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